Sperm Donors?

Well, here goes my first "official" blog entry. As my first of many topics to come, i'd like to discuss sperm donations and the after effects. A couple of day's I happened to put on Oprah, and it just so happened she was doing her show on men who donate their sperm for cash, but then get stuck 10-15 years later dealing with their "children" who want to get in contact with them. It completely baffled my mind, and I can't for the life of me understand any of that.

Here are these men, mostly in College, looking to earn some quick, extra cash. They decide, "hey, whats better than getting to jerk off to some porn and get paid for it?" Sound's great, huh? I'm sure these young men don't even think about the consequences of this and how much hassle they are going to have to go through later on in life.

There were about 5 young girls/young guys on Oprah, crying about how they never met their "Father" and how unfair it is for them to not know anything about him. Come on now, seriously. Most women go to these sperm banks because they don't want to deal with having a man in their life, but they still want a child. It is a blessing to most of these women knowing that they won't have to deal with a man once they give birth. They go there knowing full well that they are getting impregnated by a man who wants nothing to do with them, and is only looking for quick cash. So all of a sudden down the road, they want to track this poor man down and force him to be some sort of Father? That's not what sperm banks are all about! You go in, you get yourself pregnant, and that's the end of it. Geez.

There was one man on the show saying he got contacted by 5 of his "children" and how he tries to have some sort of relationship with all of them. Props to him if that's really what he wants to do, but is it necessary? Should a man feel obligated to talk to his sperm children? I'd think not.

One man had 66 sperm children out there in the world. Come on now, how can you possibly keep up relationships with 66 different children who you never even wanted to begin with? As a woman myself, if I decided I didn't need a man in my life but still wanted children, i'd highly consider going to the sperm bank and having a child on my own. I would definitely not expect or even want to try and contact the man whose sperm I used 10 years later. I actually think that would be a little creepy..

I know I may sound cold, it's just something I don't understand. Does anyone else have any opinions on this issue? I'm very curious. Feel free to agree or disagree with anything i've said in this entry.

Veronica